- Arranging a Funeral What You Can Do Yourselves: A NZ GuideISBN: 9780473237745
Title: Arranging a Funeral What You Can Do Yourselves: A NZ Guide
Author: TOMLINSON PHILIP D
Two men have made it their mission to spread the acceptance of DIY funerals, and to aid those who choose to go that way.
They are Philip Tomlinson of Timaru and Paul Briggs of Nelson.
The pair are in open rebellion against the funeral industry because both feel the New Zealand funeral industry has become too commercialised and demands too much money from families.
Tomlinson, a retired mathematician, has even published a book on the subject, Arranging a Funeral, to give people some pointers on doing it themselves.
Tomlinson warns it would be a big ask for someone to just pick up his book after a death and begin organising the funeral, though it has been done.
Instead, both Tomlinson and Briggs insist the key to DIY send-offs is pre-preparation, especially as there will be risk-averse family members who will insist a funeral is not cobbled together.
"Unless preparations have been put together, a funeral director is almost certainly rung," Tomlinson says.
Broadly speaking, there are seven key areas that need to be done to organise a funeral.
1. The interim care of the deceased.
2. Completing the legal paperwork.
3. Transporting the deceased.
4. Informing the community of the death.
5. Acquiring a coffin.
6. Organising the burial, or cremation.
7. Organising the funeral service.
Only the first, and possibly the third, areas present any real difficulties.
Cremations and burials can be arranged directly once the paperwork is done, and do not require a funeral director. Death notices can be placed in newspapers without aid. A hall, church or other reception place can be arranged, catering planned, flowers ordered.
To achieve these things just requires organisation and a little knowledge, and that, says Briggs, is not something you want to be learning when there's a body in the bedroom.
"Very few people do want to think about it or do any planning, so when a death happens they are totally unprepared," says Briggs, who was prompted into his stance after his father's funeral, which felt totally out of keeping with the man. With the stress and grief, it is a terrible time to be thinking about DIY.
He says it is entirely possible for professional funeral directors to do as little as 20 per cent of the work in the funeral process - picking up the deceased and storing them in preparation for the burial or cremation. The family can do the rest.
Some funeral directors may be resistant to being hired to do so little, Briggs says, and they may even try to insist that people pay a "minimum" package price for the service that's the same as their no frills cremation package, sometimes in the region of $2500.
Negotiating may be hard, and both Tomlinson and Briggs say they have had "wrestles" with funeral directors to get what they consider to be fair and transparent pricing.
Some families even prefer to store and transport their loved ones' bodies themselves, though Tomlinson cautions care both in regards to the dignity of the deceased, as well as the risk to the backs of those lifting bodies which are quite literally dead weights.
Dealing with dead bodies is something our society has made unfamiliar to most of us, says Tomlinson, but it is entirely possible. However, how hot the weather is and the length of time until the deceased is buried or cremated are both factors that need to be considered. Some keen DIYers even buy dry ice to help keep bodies cool, Tomlinson says, removing the need for contracting a funeral director to store the body.
A possible hitch to managing a body is it can be hard to organise a coffin in a short space of time as not all funeral directors may be happy to sell you a casket on its own, Tomlinson says.
If a casket can can be bought in advance - and the internet makes sourcing one easier - a great deal of pressure is taken off the DIY funeral arranger. Once a body is in a coffin, it is easier to manage.
Tomlinson says the cost of a traditional funeral is a big burden for many families, and prices of $8000 to $10,000 seem relatively common.
And he bridles at some of the things that have come to be seen as normal, such as the standard practice to burn or immediately bury an immaculately finished expensive coffin.
People may think that is a fitting way to show respect for the dead, and if that is people's choice, so be it, says Tomlinson. But for others a home-made MDF coffin, on which loved ones have written and drawn messages and tributes to the dead may be an equally valid choice.
Similarly, Tomlinson believes much of the embalming that is done before burials is unnecessary, and just adds to costs.
Both however warn that people who wish to do things themselves may find hurdles in the way.
Tomlinson says he's fought with funeral directors to get quotes for the provision of limited services such as body collection and storage.
Crematoria may even try to insist only funeral directors can arrange cremations. But Tomlinson says you can insist that you are a funeral director and legally so. If need be, quote from the Internal Affairs brochure, "A funeral director means a person whose business is or includes the burial and/or cremation of bodies."
Why people do funerals themselves, according to Philip Tomlinson in his book Arranging a Funeral:
You may be disenchanted by the social pressure to purchase a "standard funeral".
You may feel the obligation to "present" an entertainment-oriented funeral while carrying grief is an awful ordeal.
You may feel professional services are inordinately expensive or even unaffordable.
You may find that purchasing a full funeral package, in which everything is done for you, leaves you "wringing your hands", wanting to do something.
- Badger's Parting GiftsISBN: 9781849395144
Title: Badger's Parting Gifts
Author: VARLEY SUSAN
An award-winning picture book about bereavement.
& & & & & Badger is so old that he knows he will soon die. He tries to prepare his friends for this event, but when he does die, they are still grief-stricken. Gradually they come to terms with their grief by remembering all the practical things Badger taught them, and so Badger lives on in his friends' memories of him.
& & & & & A beautiful story sensitively and reassuringly told -- perfect for helping children understand death.
- Being Mortal: Illness, Medicine, & What Matters in the EndISBN: 9781846685811
Title: Being Mortal: Illness, Medicine, & What Matters in the End
Author: GAWANDE ATUL
New York Times Number One bestseller Longlisted for the Samuel Johnson Prize 2014In Being Mortal, Gawande examines his experiences as a surgeon, as he confronts the realities of aging and dying in his patients and in his family, as well as the limits of what he can do. And he emerges with story that crosses the globe and history, exploring questions that range from the curious to the profound: What happens to people's teeth as they get old? Did human beings really commit senecide, the sacrifice of the elderly? Why do the aged so dread nursing homes and hospitals? How should someone give another person the dreadful news that they will die? This is a story told only as Atul Gawande can - penetrating people's lives and also the systems that have evolved to govern our mortality. Those systems, he observes, routinely fail to serve - or even acknowledge - people's needs and priorities beyond mere survival. And the consequences are devastating lives, families, and even whole economies. But, as he reveals, it doesn't have to be this way. Atul Gawande has delivered an engrossing tale of science, history and remarkable characters in the vein of Oliver Sacks.Published in partnership with the Wellcome Collection, a free visitor destination that explores the connections between medicine, life and art. Atul Gawande will deliver this year's BBC Radio 4 Reith Lectures on the subject of The Future of Medicine.
- Being Mortal: Medicine & What Matters in the EndISBN: 9781846685828
Title: Being Mortal: Medicine & What Matters in the End
Author: GAWANDE ATUL
From the international bestselling author of Better, Complications and The Checklist Manifesto and Reith Lecturer 2014, a revolutionary and emotionally searing account of death, dying and medicine.
For most of human history, death was a common, ever-present possibility. It didn't matter whether you were five or fifty - every day was a roll of the dice. But now, as medical advances push the boundaries of survival further each year, we have become increasingly detached from the reality of being mortal. So here is a book about the modern experience of mortality - about what it's like to get old and die, how medicine has changed this and how it hasn't, where our ideas about death have gone wrong. With his trademark mix of perceptiveness and sensitivity, Atul Gawande outlines a story that crosses the globe, as he examines his experiences as a surgeon and those of his patients and family, and learns to accept the limits of what he can do.
Never before has aging been such an important topic. The systems that we have put in place to manage our mortality are manifestly failing; but, as Gawande reveals, it doesn't have to be this way. The ultimate goal, after all, is not a good death, but a good life - all the way to the very end.
Published in partnership with the Wellcome Collection, a free visitor destination that explores the connections between medicine, life and art.
- Being with Dying Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of DeathISBN: 9781590307182
Title: Being with Dying Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death
Author: HALIFAX JOAN
The Buddhist approach to death can be of great benefit to people of all backgrounds as has been demonstrated time and again in Joan Halifax s decades of work with the dying and their caregivers. Inspired by traditional Buddhist teachings, her work is a source of wisdom for all those who are charged with a dying person s care, facing their own death, or wishing to explore and contemplate the transformative power of the dying process. Her teachings affirm that we can open and contact our inner strength, and that we can help others who are suffering to do the same."
- Better Send Off: The Ultimate Funeral GuideISBN: 9780994106971
Title: Better Send Off: The Ultimate Funeral Guide
Author: MCJORROW GAIL
Are you currently planning a funeral for a loved one?
During this difficult time, Better Send Off want to make the funeral planning process not only stress and hassle free for you, but cost effective.
Better Send Off is a one-stop for everything you need to personalise the celebration of your loved one's life.
- Beyond Words: Grieving When Your Child Has DiedISBN: 9780987654007
Title: Beyond Words: Grieving When Your Child Has Died
Author: THOMPSON ANDREW & IRVING HENDRY TRICIA
The death of a child is a heartfelt experience like no other.It is a deep grief experience that goes beyond words.The loss affects bereaved parents emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and socially. It makes more demands on them than most others ever realise. Many bereaved parents say that the only people who can ever genuinely begin to understand what it's like for them are other bereaved parents. Hearing from others who have 'been there' can make all the difference. For this reason, Beyond Words is a handbook that features the honest words, perspectives and suggestions of many bereaved parents. It also offers useful information about managing grief, support options and ideas that may be helpful on the grief journey. It is comforting, encouraging, informative and practical. It will also provide understanding and insights to professionals and others seeking to effectively support bereaved parents. From Wellington based Skylight publishers.
Format: Trade paperback
- Cigarette LighterISBN: 9781501307362
Title: Cigarette Lighter
Author: PENDARVIS JACK
Object Lessons is a series of short, beautifully designed books about the hidden lives of ordinary things.Smokers, survivalists, teenagers, collectors.. The cigarette lighter is a charged, complex, yet often entirely disposable object that moves across these various groups of people, acquiring and emitting different meanings while always supplying its primary function, that of ignition. While the lighter may seem at first a niche object-only for old fashioned cigarette smokers-in this book Jack Pendarvis explodes the lighter as something with deep history, as something with quirky episodes in cultural contexts, and as something that dances with wide ranging taboos and traditions. Pendarvis shows how the lighter tarries with the cheapest ends of consumer culture as much as it displays more profound dramas of human survival, technological advances, and aesthetics.Object Lessons is published in partnership with an essay series in the The Atlantic.
- Coping with GriefISBN: 9780733330889
Title: Coping with Grief
Author: MCKISSOCK MAL
This best-selling book offers sensitive and practical advice on how to deal with the grieving process, from coping with the funeral to managing anniversaries and special dates. Suitable for both the bereaved and their support team, it explains what to expect emotionally, psychologically and practically from the first day through the first year, as well as outlining the physical and emotional reactions to grief, why men and women react differently, how children deal with grief and some of the long-term consequences of bereavement. Whether you have been be reaved, or are part of the bereaveds support team, this self-help book will prove invaluable, and show you how to survive or help others survive, the most challenging experience a human being can have; the loss of a loved one.
- Coping With Grief 3edISBN: 9780733304385
Title: Coping With Grief 3ed
Author: MCKISSOCK MAL
- Enjoy Every Sandwich: Living Each Day As If It Were Your LastISBN: 9780593069639
Title: Enjoy Every Sandwich: Living Each Day As If It Were Your Last
Author: LIPSENTHAL LEE
Lee Lipsenthal had a charmed life: married to the love of his life, the proud father of two remarkable children, working as medical director of the Preventive Medicine Research Institute. In his personal relationships and with his patients, Lee was committed to living his life fully and gratefully each day.
The power of those beliefs were tested in July 2009 when he was diagnosed with esophageal cancer, leaving him with a 90 percent chance of dying within five years. As Lee and his wife Kathy navigated his diagnosis, illness and treatment, he discovered that he did not fear death, and even as he faced his own mortality, he felt more fully alive than ever before.
In the bestselling tradition of Don't Sweat the Small Stuff and The Last Lecture, Enjoy Every Sandwich distils everything Lee learned about how we find meaning, purpose and peace in our lives. Told with humour and heart, this deeply inspiring book will help readers embrace their humanity, accept uncertainty and live a life of gratitude - whether they are facing the end now or not.
- Final ExitISBN: 9780385336536
Title: Final Exit
Author: HUMPHRY DEREK
- Grace in Dying: a Message of Hope Comfort & Spiritual TransformationISBN: 9780062515650
Title: Grace in Dying: a Message of Hope Comfort & Spiritual Transformation
Author: SINGH KATHLEEN DOWLING
A moving illumination of the final transition of our lives.
- GriefISBN: 9781401308940
Author: HOLLERAN ANDREW
- Grief ObservedISBN: 9780571066247
Title: Grief Observed
Author: LEWIS C S
A Grief Observed comprises the reflections of the great scholar and Christian apologist on the death of his wife after only a few short years of marriage. Painfully honest in its dissection of his thoughts and feelings, this is a book that details his paralysing grief, bewilderment and sense of loss in simple and moving prose.
- Grief ObservedISBN: 9780571290680
Title: Grief Observed
Author: LEWIS C S
Written after his wife's tragic death as a way of surviving the "mad midnight moment," A Grief Observed is C.S. Lewis's honest reflection on the fundamental issues of life, death, and faith in the midst of loss. This work contains his concise, genuine reflections on that period: "Nothing will shake a man -- or at any rate a man like me -- out of his merely verbal thinking and his merely notional beliefs. He has to be knocked silly before he comes to his senses. Only torture will bring out the truth. Only under torture does he discover it himself." This is a beautiful and unflinchingly homest record of how even a stalwart believer can lose all sense of meaning in the universe, and how he can gradually regain his bearings.
- Grief Observed Readers' EditionISBN: 9780571310876
Title: Grief Observed Readers' Edition
Author: LEWIS C S
In April 1956, C.S. Lewis, a confirmed bachelor, married Joy Davidman, an American poet with two small children. After four brief, intensely happy years, Davidman died of cancer and Lewis found himself alone again, and inconsolable. To defend himself against the loss of belief in God, Lewis wrote this journal, an eloquent statement of rediscovered faith. In it he freely confesses his doubts, his rage, and his awareness of human frailty. In it he finds again the way back to life. Now a modern classic, 'A Grief Observed' has offered solace and insight to countless readers worldwide.This expanded edition will include the original text of 'A Grief Observed' as well as new and specially commissioned responses to the book and its themes from respected contemporary writers and thinkers.
- Heal & Move On: Seven steps to recovering from a Break-upISBN: 9781408802601
Title: Heal & Move On: Seven steps to recovering from a Break-up
Author: MARSHALL ANDREW G
Whether your partner left or it's you who decided to end the relationship, breaking-up is painful, difficult and sometimes overwhelming. Friends and family urge you to forget the past and reach for the future. However, it is never that simple. Before you can move on, you need to understand what went wrong, mourn the loss and, mostimportantly, to heal. In this compassionate book, marital therapist, Andrew G Marshall takes you from hearing the bad news or making the decision to leave, through the fall-out from the split, the first steps of recovery and finally onto making a new life. He covers:- Knowing when to stop trying and accept the inevitable.- Why the break-up hurts so much.- Emotional first-aid to make it through the worst times.- The difference between looking back and learning, and becoming trapped in the past.- What helps and what hinders recovery.- Making sense of your break-up.- Helping your children cope.- Learning how to fly high again.With over 25 years' experience as a marital therapist, Marshall draws on hundreds of case studies, and provides sensible, compassionate and practical advice.(Some of the exercises in this book have appeared inI Love You But I'm Not In Love With Youby Andrew G. Marshall, published by Bloomsbury)
- Healing After Loss Daily Meditations for Working Through GriefISBN: 9780380773381
Title: Healing After Loss Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief
Author: HICKMAN MARTHA W
For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are strength and thoughtful words to inspire and comfort.
- Heart & the Bottle Book & CdISBN: 9780007345953
Title: Heart & the Bottle Book & Cd
Author: JEFFERS OLIVER
Award-winning picture book star Oliver Jeffers explores themes of love and loss in this life-affirming, uplifting tale, due to be featured in a major motion picture. Once there was a girl who was full of wonderment at how the world worked. She shared all her dreams and excitement with her father, who always had the answer to every question. That is until one day when his chair was empty, not to be filled again - how would the girl ever find meaning from her life again?
- Heart & the Bottle Mini HB EdISBN: 9780007429004
Title: Heart & the Bottle Mini HB Ed
Author: JEFFERS OLIVER
Award-winning picture book star Oliver Jeffers explores themes of love and loss in this life-affirming, uplifting tale, due to be featured in a major motion picture. Once there was a girl who was full of wonderment at how the world worked. She shared all her dreams and excitement with her father, who always had the answer to every question. That is until one day when his chair was empty, not to be filled again â€œ how would she find the meaning of life now?
- Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Teen SuicideISBN: 9781583227206
Title: Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Teen Suicide
Author: BORNSTEIN KATE
Celebrated transsexual trailblazer Kate Bornstein has, with more humor and spunk than any other, ushered us into a world of limitless possibility through a daring re-envisionment of the gender system as we know it. Here, Kate bravely and wittily shares personal and unorthodox methods of survival for navigating an often cruel world. A one-of-a-kind guide to staying alive outside the box, Hello, Cruel World is a much-needed unconventional approach to teenage suicide prevention for marginalized youth who want to stay on the edge, but alive. Hello, Cruel World features a catalog of 101 Alternatives to Suicide that range from the playful (Moisturize), to the irreverent (Disbelieve the Binary), to the highly controversial (Get Laid. Please). Designed to encourage readers to give themselves permission to unleash their hearts' harmless desires, the book has only one directive: "Don't be mean." It is this guiding principle that brings its reader on a self-validating journey, which forges wholly new paths toward a resounding decision to choose life. Tenderly intimate and unapologetically edgy, Kate is the radical role model, the affectionate best friend, and the guiding mentor all in one kind and spirited package. A celebrated pioneer for the LGBTQI community, transsexual author and performance artist, Kate Bornstein is the author of the wildly successful books My Gender Workbook and Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and The Rest of Us.
- History of Suicide : My Sister's Unfinished LifeISBN: 9781783781171
Title: History of Suicide : My Sister's Unfinished Life
Author: BIAOLSKY JILL
On the night of April 15, 1990, Jill Bialosky's 21-year-old sister Kim came home from a bar in downtown Cleveland. She argued with her boyfriend on the phone. Then she took her mother's car keys, went into the garage, and closed the garage door. Her body was found the next morning. Those are the simple facts, but the act of suicide is far from simple. For 20 years, Bialosky has lived with the grief, guilt, questions, and confusion unleashed by Kim's suicide. Now, she recreates with unsparing honesty her sister's inner life, and the events and emotions that led her to take her life on this particular night. In doing so, she opens a window on the nature of suicide itself, our own reactions and responses to it - especially the impact a suicide has on those who remain behind.
- I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye Surviving, Coping & Healing after the Sudden Death of a Loved OneISBN: 9781402212215
Title: I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye Surviving, Coping & Healing after the Sudden Death of a Loved One
Author: NOEL BROOK & BLAIR PAMELA D
<p><i>Now there is a hand to hold... </i></p><p>Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of someone close to them. Now for thse who face the challenges of sudden death, there is a hand to hold, written by two women who have experienced sudden loss. This updated edition of the best-selling bereavement classic will touch, comfort, uplift and console. Authors Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D. explore sudden death and offers a comforting hand to hold for those who are grieving the sudden death of a loved one.</p><p>Featured on ABC World News, Fox and Friends and many other shows, this book acts as a touchstone of sanity through difficult times. I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye covers such difficult topics as the first few weeks, suicide, death of a child, children and grief, funerals and rituals, physical effects, homicide and depression. New material covers the unique circumstances of loss, men and women's grieving styles, religion and faith, myths and misunderstandings, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye reflects the shifting face of grief. <br><br>These pages have offered solace to over eighty thousand people, ranging from seniors to teenagers and from the newly bereaved to those who lost a loved one years ago. Individuals engulfed by the immediate aftermath will find a special chapter covering the first few weeks.</p><p>Tapping their personal histories and drawing on numerous interviews, authors Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D, explore unexpected death and its role in the cycle of life. I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye provides survivors with a rock-steady anchor from which to weather the storm of pain and begin to rebuild their lives.</p><p><b><font color="#FF0000">PRAISE FOR I WASN'T READY TO SAY GOODBYE </font></b></p><p><i>"I highly recommend this book, not only to the bereaved, but to friends and counselors as well."</i><br><b>Helen Fitzgerald, author of The Grieving Child, The Mourning Handbook, and The Grieving Teen</b></p><p><i>"This book, by women who have done their homework on grief... can hold a hand and comfort a soul through grief 's wilderness. Oustanding references of where to see other help."</i><br><b>George C. Kandle, Pastoral Psychologist</b></p><p><i>"Finally, you have found a friend who can notonly explain what has just occurred, but can take you by the hand and lead you to a place of healing and personal growth. Whether you are dealing with the loss of a family member, a close personal associate or a friend, this guide can help you survive and cope, but even more importantly... heal."</i><br><b>The Rebecca Review</b></p><p><i>"For those dealing with the loss of a loved one, or for those who want to help someone who is, this is a highly recommended read."</i><br><b>Midwest Book Review</b></p>
- I'll See Myself Out, Thank YouISBN: 9780992627096
Title: I'll See Myself Out, Thank You
Author: BREWER COLIN ET AL (EDS)
- Infinite ThreadISBN: 9781582700465
Title: Infinite Thread
Author: O'DONOHUE JOHN & KENNEDY ALEXANDRA
- Kissing ShadowsISBN: 9781869692032
Title: Kissing Shadows
- Le Snob Guide to CigarsISBN: 9781742701714
Title: Le Snob Guide to Cigars
Author: GANLEY COLIN
For the men and women who appreciate the finer things in life, The Le Snobs are your guides to the work of skilled artisans, culinary connoisseurs and inspired designers from around the world. Impeccably stylish and beautifully understated, these handbooks will appeal to anyone seeking perfection and, importantly, ensure you always know more than everyone else. Witty, assured and informative, these books are the perfect foil for your passion for the finer things in life. Evocative and richly appointed with little-known facts, this book is about savouring the world's most sophisticated tobacco products to the full. It celebrates the fine distinctions between brand, place, tradition and taste that elevate cigar appreciation to an art in itself. Le Snob: Cigars reaches across the Caribbean from the powerful tobaccos of Central America, through Cuba's rich aromas, to the Dominican Republic's finesse to show you the finest cigars available today, and why it is worth being a snob about the cigars you choose to smoke. With the cachet knowledge every expert must possess, plus authentic insights into the lives and skills of cigar producers, Le Snob: Cigars offers impeccable advice on all aspects of this traditional, from pronunciation to professional tasting techniques. The book also features an authoritative directory of rare and prestige cigars to help you explore the very finest international styles in greater depth.
- Les Tres Riches Heures De Mrs MoleISBN: 9780007449101
Title: Les Tres Riches Heures De Mrs Mole
Author: SEARLE RONALD
47 jewel-like drawings by Ronald Searle made for his wife, Monica, each time she underwent chemotherapy. On New Year ""s Eve 1969, Monica Searle was diagnosed with a rare and virulent form of breast cancer. Each time she underwent treatment, Ronald produced a Mrs Mole drawing to cheer every dreaded chemotherapy session and evoke the blissful future ahead "". Filled with light and illuminated in glowing colours, the drawings speak of love, optimism and hope. Like the mediaeval illuminated manuscripts such as the 15th-century Les Tres Riches Heures du Duc de Berry, to which the title of this book refers, the 47 drawings are on an intimate scale and were never intended for publication. The story of Monica ""s survival against the odds and the part played by the encouragement of her husband will move many people who have either experienced cancer for themselves or been affected through a close family member or friend.
- Let's Talk about Death Asking the Questions That Profoundly Change the Way We Live and DieISBN: 9781633881129
Title: Let's Talk about Death Asking the Questions That Profoundly Change the Way We Live and Die
Author: GORDON STEVE ; KACANDES IRENE
Experts in end-of-life care tell us that we should talk about death and dying with relatives and friends, but how do we get such conversations off the ground in a society that historically has avoided the topic? This book provides one example of such a conversation. The coauthors take up challenging questions about pain, caregiving, grief, and what comes after death. Their unlikely collaboration is itself connected to death: the murders of two of Irene's closest friends and Steve's support in perpetuating memories of those friends' lives and not just their violent ends.&
The authors share the results of a no-holds-barred discussion they conducted for several years over email. Readers can consider a range of views on complicated issues to which there are no right answers. Letting ourselves pose certain questions has the potential to profoundly change the way we think about death, how we choose to die, and, just as importantly, the way we live.
Honest, probing, sensitive, and even humorous at times, the completely open discussions in this book will help readers deal with a topic that most of us try to avoid but that everyone will face eventually.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Format: Trade paperback
- Lifetimes A Beautiful Way to Explain Death to ChildrenISBN: 9780553344028
Title: Lifetimes A Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children
Author: MELLONIE BRYAN
When the death of a relative, a friend, or a pet happens or is about to happen . . . how can we help a child to understand?
Lifetimes is a moving book for children of all ages, even parents too. It lets us explain life and death in a sensitive, caring, beautiful way. Lifetimes tells us about beginnings. And about endings. And about living in between. With large, wonderful illustrations, it tells about plants. About animals. About people. It tells that dying is as much a part of living as being born. It helps us to remember. It helps us to understand.
Lifetimes. . . a very special, very important book for you and your child. The book that explains-beautifully-that all living things have their own special Lifetimes.
- Living at the End of LifeISBN: 9781402787287
Title: Living at the End of Life
Author: BELL KAREN WHITLEY
Format: Trade paperback
- Living When a Loved One Has DiedISBN: 9780807027196
Title: Living When a Loved One Has Died
Author: GROLLMAN EARL
- More Six Feet Down Under Memoirs of a Nz Funeral DirectorISBN: 9780473196325
Title: More Six Feet Down Under Memoirs of a Nz Funeral Director
Author: MANN CHRIS
- Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss 20th Anniversary EditionISBN: 9780738217734
Title: Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss 20th Anniversary Edition
Author: EDELMAN HOPE
Ask any woman whose mother has died, and she will tell you that she is irrevocably altered, as deeply changed by her mother's death as she was by her mother's life. Although a mother's mortality is inevitable, no book had discussed the profound, lasting, and far-reaching effects of this loss--until "Motherless Daughters," which became an instant classic. Twenty years later, it is still the book that women of all ages look to for comfort and understanding when their mothers die, and the book that they continue to press into each other's hands.
Building on interviews with hundreds of mother-loss survivors, the author's personal story of losing her mother, recent research in grief and psychology, and with a new afterword exploring how the legacy of mother loss shifts with the passage of time, "Motherless Daughters" reveals the shared experiences and core identity issues of motherless women:
Why the absence of a nurturing hand shapes a woman's identity throughout her lifespan
How present-day relationships are defined by past losses
How a woman can resolve past conflicts and move toward acceptance and healing
What grief really is: not a linear passage, but an ongoing cyclical journey
- Music RoomISBN: 9780330507592
Title: Music Room
Author: FIENNES WILLIAM
When William Fiennes was a small boy, his parents inherited an extraordinary home: a castle full of history, secrets and strange artefacts, the perfect hunting ground for child with a brimming imagination. The family set about welcoming visitors - actors, musicians, travelling fairs, members of the public - but behind these very public scenes a more intimate drama was taking place. William's older brother, Richard, had been diagnosed with severe and debilitating epilepsy. Within the enchanted world of the house, Richard is a powerful presence: radiating wit, beguilingly eccentric, and yet also the victim of dark and violent moods. The two brothers are devoted, yet as William grows - ever more independent, ever closer to leaving this idyllic home - Richard's life becomes increasingly circumscribed. One day Will receives a phone call: 'Richard died this morning. Come and join us.' THE MUSIC ROOM captures a child's wide-eyed wonder and an adult's grief. Its incantatory prose builds a house that is almost sentient, a landscape bursting with life, and a family animated by generosity and strength. Utterly unique in its sensibility, minutely detailed and tenderly observed, it is not an elegy but a sensory tribute to home, to the workings of memory and imagination, and, above all, a transcendent lovesong for a brother.
Format: Trade paperback
- My Mother, My Father On Losing a ParentISBN: 9781743314159
Title: My Mother, My Father On Losing a Parent
Author: WYNDHAM SUSAN ED
Some of Australia's best known writers share their wise and searingly honest experiences of losing a parent. The loss of a parent is an experience that we all face without any training - relating to a parent through old age and illness; going through the actual death in different circumstances and whether we can help parents to have a good death; the emotional aftermath - shock, grief, relief, the effect on families; funerals, wills and other rituals; clearing out the house and keeping memories alive; recovery and carrying on with life; the longer-term changes in us and our relationship with our parents. Edited by Sydney Morning Herald literary editor, journalist and writer Susan Wyndham, My Mother, My Fatheris a collection of stories from 14 remarkable Australian writers, sharing what it is to feel loss, and all the experiences and memories that create the image of our parents. Contributors include Helen Garner, David Marr, Tom Keneally, Gerard Windsor, Susan Duncan and Caroline Baum. These stories are intimate, honest, moving, sometimes funny, never sentimental, and always well written.
Format: Trade paperback
- Notes on SuicideISBN: 9781910695067
Title: Notes on Suicide
Author: CRITCHLEY SIMON
'This book is not a suicide note. Ten days after Edouard Leve handed in the manuscript of Suicide to his publisher in 2007, he hanged himself in his apart- ment. He was 42. Two years after Jean Amery's On Suicide was published in 1976, the author took an overdose of sleeping pills. He was 65. In 1960, some eighteen years after Albert Camus had raised and - so he thought - resolved the question of suicide in The Myth of Sisyphus, he was killed in a car accident. He is alleged to have said that dying in a car crash is the most absurd of all deaths. The absurdity of his death is compounded by the fact he had an unused train ticket in his pocket. He was 46.Let me say at the outset, at the risk of disappointing the reader, that I have no plans to kill myself... just yet. Nor do I wish to join the chorus of those who proclaim loudly against suicide and claim that the act of taking one's own life is irresponsible and selfish, even shameful and cowardly, that people must stay alive whatever the cost. Suicide, in my view, is neither a legal nor moral offence, and should not be seen as such. My intention here is to simply try to understand the phenomenon, the act itself, what precedes it and what follows. I'd like to consider suicide from the point of view of those who have made the leap, or have come close to it - we might even find that the capacity to take that leap is what picks us out as humans. I want to look at suicide closely, carefully, and perhaps a little coldly, without immediately leaping to judgements or asserting moral principles like the right to life or death. We have to look suicide in the face, long and hard, and see what features, what profile, what inherited character traits and wrinkles emerge. Perhaps what we see when we look closely is our own distorted reflection staring back at us.'
- NZealand Will Kit Create Your Own Legally Effective WillISBN: 9781869661311
Title: NZealand Will Kit Create Your Own Legally Effective Will
Making a will is a vital and responsible task but is often put off because the process appears so complicated. The New Zealand Will Kit sets out to change that. It itemises in clear, easy language what the reader needs to know about preparing a list of assets, identifying possible beneficiaries, and establishing an executor. Included in the book are three perforated blank wills (for a single person, a married person with children and a married person without children), so that readers can make their own will and tailor it to their individual circumstances. If instead they choose to consult a solicitor, The New Zealand Will Kit equips them with the knowledge to help them ask all the right questions for peace of mind.
- On Death & Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own FamiliesISBN: 9781476775548
Title: On Death & Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families
Author: KUBLER-ROSS ELISABETH
The five stages of grief, first formulated in this hugely influential work 40 years ago, are now part of our common understanding of loss. Ideal for all those with an interest in bereavement, this classic text is reissued with a new introduction looking at its influence on contemporary thought and practice.